Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.
TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?
QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.
WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?
GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!
ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?
PRO TIP - The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.
I reblogged this recently but it got better and ive been thinking and learning a lot abt love languages so
On the topic of Ripley I just want to reiterate why exotic animal (or any unethical animal to own like pugs or scottish folds) “influencers” and online followings are inherently bad 99% of the time, it was perfectly summarized in the last season of Bojack; pop culture inherently normalizes things. Platforms like instagram are notorious for people only showing off the best and #goals while not showing the work that goes into these aesthetics. Be it modelling, travelling, parenting, or pet keeping, I strongly believe the model is the same.
People post the 15 second clip of their cockatoo being cute but they rarely post the hours and hours of 100+db screaming (the Muloccan cockatoo holds the record for loudest bird at 135db, 105db is enough to cause ear damage). I think the push of shorter video apps in recent years exacerbated this problem further.
Another thing to consider is that once you post content its out of your hands. Sure for every 10 cute videos you may post an informative video about parrots not being such great pets, but which do you think will be circulated more? Or reposted and compiled out of context? All these things should be taken into consideration when you put things like this online. Even if you simultaneously share cool photos of your exotic while talking down their ownership (with rescued exotics, notoriously big cats) you’re still sending out the message of “do as I say, not as I do” and anyone with knowledge on parenting or being a role model knows this really not effective, actions speak louder than words.
This part of the post by Ripley’s owner really stuck out to me:
“ever since i was an 8 year old child i wanted this wild animal as a pet and my clickbait channel plus instagram have taught and inspired millions of people by normalizing the idea that exotic birds can be cute puppers to keep in your house”
I honestly don’t see how with video thumbnails like this Ripley’s owner was doing anything other than furthering the demand for toucans as pets and by proxy breeding, poaching, trafficking, and threatening the species.
I found all these comments on one video.
Anyway please don’t buy these animals, and if you already own one please keep it lowkey.
Hot take … Animals don’t belong in your home at all. Unless they literally crawled in there on their own, in which case I’m willing to bet you will waste no time in showing them the door. Exotic pets are a problem, but so are “normal” pets.
there’s nothing inherently unethical about owning a domestic animal. there’s bad breeding and malpractices but meeting the needs of a cat/dog/rats/rabbit/pigeons/chickens on the average house property is very achievable
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